April 14th, 2010

Get a life

Posted in The Job - Experience by 200

I have previously waxed lyrical about how much of modern police work is generated by abuse on Facebook. One of our other major areas of work is threats & harassment from ex-partners.

A significant proportion of our calls are from people whose relationships have split up but one party won’t leave it alone &  feels the need to keep contacting the other party. Spookily, this is often done via Facebook but probably more commonly via text messages.

It usually takes the form of abuse or threats. I have no idea why people do this. I know I have to think back to the last time I was dumped – probably secondary school to be honest &  we didn’t have mobile phones – but I can’t recall ever feeling the need to cycle round to Wendy’s house to stick a note through the door that I was going to torch it.

It’s mainly, though not exclusively, men who indulge on such fripparies. I dont know why, perhaps it’s just the male species’ inability to grow up, something of which I am just as guilty as the next man, perhaps a flaw in their character dictates that they have to show macho posturing to any sleight on their character. This is probably why I see so many of them taking off their shirts after a few sherbets in the town centre every night.

I’m not really sure if there is a point to this entry today, it was just sparked because 5 of the 20 jobs on the box when I came in to work this morning were to do with males who won’t grow up & get a life.

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  1. Pc A Hunn says:

    …. I have spoken to both parties and can conclude they are both as bad as each other, they have both been warned to stop contacting each other and advised re harassment….

    If I had a £ for every time I’ve put that on a log I’d double my monthy wage.

    What I want to write is…. Both parties are lying shit bags. No offences. Both parties told to grow up and get a job so they have something more important to think about.

    April 15th, 2010 at 00:14

  2. Stonehead says:

    I hope you resist the temptation to regard all such calls as being from timewasters.

    I had a woman stalk me for a couple of years. She had been a work colleague who’d decided there was more going on than work. She’d phone me at all hours of the day and night, would follow me, would follow my girlfriend, turn up at places “coincidentally” and generally made a downright nuisance of herself. I tried the police (Met) but while they’d been good at dealing with street robbers, burglars, peeping toms and gun-waving teens, they were not good at dealing with deranged female stalkers. In fact, the officers I spoke to thought it all a bit of a joke. In the end, it was only when my girlfriend, by then my wife, and I moved out of London that we escaped my stalker.

    My wife’s experience of stalkers, in her case an ex, was even worse. He actually broke into her house, made threats of violence and retribution, and persisted in his campaign for years. He was sectioned at one time, not for his actions against her but because his actions elsewhere showed he was a danger to the public. Again, Met officers were reluctant to get involved and made it clear it was a “he just needs to grow up” situation.

    I resolved the situation myself, when I found him trying to break in one day and had very firm words with him. He initially protested the police didn’t think he was a problem—until he realised I had no intention of involving the police. Having had the error of his ways explained to him, he obliged by vanishing from my wife’s life. She was a bit puzzled by the sudden cessation of the stalking, but it was a few years before I explained to her why her ex had suddenly ceased his attentions.

    So please bear in mind that not all complaints about exes and/or stalkers are pathetic rubbish that should, rightly, be binned.

    April 15th, 2010 at 09:22

  3. Stan Still says:


    Sorry to blatantly advertise on your site, but I was inspired by the Facebook Panic Button story to compose the following on my blog.


    Your screen of doom will be stacked with jobs if this little project gets off the ground.

    Have fun in there.


    PS – any chance of going back on your blogroll?

    April 15th, 2010 at 10:33

  4. ojw says:

    was going to ask: how do you feel about the “one-click libel” panic-button on facebook that all the top policemen are pushing for?

    April 15th, 2010 at 21:46

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