September 13th, 2009

Farewell fellar

Posted in Other Stuff by 200

I went to a funeral this week.

John worked for ‘the organisation’. I’d only known him two or three years but we struck up a working friendship. I say working because we didn’t socialise, except at work. We shared a couple of interests. He was ex-RAF & we had a mutual interest in motorsport.

He was taken by cancer & I was struck at the amount of funerals I’ve been to in the last two or three years. I expect you get to a certain age & people you know or love start dying with grim regularity. I had a close relative die last year from cancer, diagnosis to death was 4 months.

As funerals go it was a good service. I read a poem, it was quite difficult even though John & I weren’t close friends. I kept glancing at his teenage daughter as I read the words, wondering what life now has in store for her.

John wasn’t an officer but there were plenty of officers there, some carried his coffin.

I’ll miss our little chats.

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  1. Tony F says:

    My Mother, who is 80+, always when we speak on the phone, the conversation goes..”do you remember so and so? well she/he died last month, and so did someone else….”

    September 14th, 2009 at 16:46

  2. Kevster says:

    Sooner or later The Reaper comes for us all….

    September 14th, 2009 at 16:51

  3. Copper bottom says:

    Yup only two things are certain :

    Death and taxes…

    September 14th, 2009 at 22:30

  4. Oi says:

    Having recently buried both father and mother in law, my own father, a cousin who died of cancer and two days ago, a mate who also died of cancer – your post strikes a vague chord……

    September 16th, 2009 at 08:23

  5. Anon says:

    When I was in my late teens/early 20s, I went to a lot of funerals of “mates”—other young men who’d died in car or bike crashes, from drug overdoses and from various “accidents” caused by drink (drowning, falling off a wall, etc). There were also a couple of suicides, a negligent discharge, an APC rollover, and a helicopter crash.

    Then it all went quiet for 20 years or so with just a handful of funerals for very elderly relatives who’d lived out their time. The only surprising one in that time was a friend who died in childbirth.

    Now, they’re dropping like flies again. The poorer members of my parent’s generation are dying in their 60s and early 70s from diseases caused by smoking, poor diet and working class occupations. People of my own generation are dying from cancer. And the suicide rate is climbing again as some previously successful people find the “credit crunch” to much to handle.

    I suspect that once the current round of “thinning” ends, there will be another break of 10-20 years and then I’ll be at funerals again. Hopefully not mine!

    September 18th, 2009 at 17:38

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